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Jodie Foster, a lesbian
According to The Guardian, everybody already knew that Jodie Foster was a lesbian by the time she came out last week. Well, I hadn’t known. I wish I had, though.
It’s not that I feel I have the right to know. (Gossip is good, but snooping isn’t that cool.)
It’s not that now I hope I have a good chance with her. (Much as I’d like that, seeing how she’s one of the sharpest and most talented women alive.)
It’s not even that I think better of her now that I know she likes girls. (Positive discrimination is just as dumb as homophobic rubbish.)
It’s the now somewhat cliché, but nonetheless real need for more lesbian and bisexual role-models, of whom I don’t have all that many. I didn’t even realise I needed them, but I really do.
Obviously, I believe I was born bisexual, but I didn’t fully comprehend this about myself until I was twenty years old, active in the spanking scene, and nearly married.
I went through the longest period of thinking “I don’t want to be bi! I don’t want to! I’m straight straight straight! I’m already a kinky pervert, do I need another kink to add to my bouquet of passions?” You know how well that particular piece of self-deception worked.
I didn’t kiss a girl until my first day on a spanking shoot. (Not the most romantic of settings, but it was sweet nonetheless.)
I didn’t have my first sexual experience with a girl until last year. (I don’t think either of us knew what the fuck we were doing, but I will treasure the memory always.)
I was a spanking model, a relatively successful blogger, an experienced spanking player - and still, in some respects, a confused virgin with a head full of weird ideas.
I’m not saying that the knowledge of Jodie Foster’s sexuality would have decided everything for me, and helped me sort out my own preferences - but perhaps it would have helped calm some of the calamity, made its mark in the labyrinth of my subconscious.
Even now, it does. Every time somebody I respect comes out as kinky, gay, poly, whatever - every time behind the voice in my head that booms “it’s none of your business really”, there’s a little voice that gives a big cheer.
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I wonder if Jodi is into spanking as well, I think it would make my day. Being bi is the best of both worlds really, consider yourself lucky!
To paraphrase Popeye, we am what we am, so let’s be proud of it. One also never knows what one might enjoy until confronted with the situation.
Oh Adele,
If only you weren’t half a world away, married, and committed to your life and lifestyle….
I would offer to make a honest although penitent woman of you.
Alas. Alack. :)
KatieJ.
Yay, my first nearly-proposal from a girl :)
Adele,
I wouldn’t think of being bi as a burden to add to the list, but rather just another option to explore as you wander down the paths of sexuality. And I think it’s important to remember that just because you acknowledge that you are bi doesn’t necessarily mean you have to “do” anything with it. Nonetheless, I think it *is* important to have good role models for women, straight, bi, or otherwise. We all need to have someone to look up to, to model ourselves after, and to admire. There’s nothing wrong with that. I don’t think Jodie Foster is all of a sudden on my list, but that’s not because she’s queer, but because I’m just not attracted to her. Now Portia diRossi, that’s another story…
Best,
Catalina
[Adele:] I didn’t have my first sexual experience with a girl until last year. (I don’t think either of us knew what the fuck we were doing, but I will treasure the memory always.)
Then your friend is very lucky girl to have you. :)
Rx
I think I would like to have a lesbian experience with any of you girls!
Hi Adele,
Jodie a lesbian? Absolutely. How cool. Happy day for the world she came out. I wish Helen Mirren was bisexual. And Brittany Murphy. Oh, and Hayden Christensen: I wish he was bi, best beautiful bi boy ever!
I’ve had crushes on both boys and girls since grade school. I used to hold hands with my best friend in high school. She’d tell me, ” I wish you were a guy. I’d marry you.” This was the eighties, you know.
First sexual experience with a woman didn’t occur until my twenties, when I was a stripper. Stripdom: universe ripe with opportunities, girl crushes, make out sessions in the locker room, swapping spit, fingers slipping inside t-bars. Boobs are seriously beautiful.
Peace.
A