After-shoot highs and lows
Scenology, Shooting Films — By Adele on 14 October, 2008 7:58 pmI would like to turn your particular attention to a post by Pandora about a day’s shooting, and what it does to her. Although it’s an overall excellent account, the last couple of paragraphs in particular made a lightbulb flash inside my head.
Pandora writes:
Lust torments me all the way home… The endorphine crash leaves me listless and melancholy. I spend a little time relieving the ache that has been building since that session with the crop, and afterwards I weep at stupid things and mope around the house getting nothing done.
…Lust gives way to exhaustion, and when Tom arrives I won’t know whether to tear my clothes off and throw myself at him, or curl up in his arms and demand cuddles. I want to be whipped again, I want to share some of the spark and energy from today’s shoot with my beloved, I want to offer some of that energy to him. But I’m physically drained, and connecting with my real boyfriend when half my head is still being whipped by Sonia is always difficult to navigate.
More often than not I return from shoots buzzing with endorphins, hyper and ready for more – but this boundless kinky energy can be a mindless and borderline destructive force. If I manage to get into a post-shoot spanking session, it can be strangely unsatisfying, like scratching an itch through a layer of latex.
Reading what Pandora said about this made me realised that the core reason for this is that my physical shell is with my partner, while my brain is still at the shoot, doing the complicated camera dance. I may want to focus on my partner, but the nature of the exercise means that focus is just not something I’m capable of.
One great solution for this is some intense cuddling. Mr Haze has cuddled me out of some severe post-shoot brain zaps. When he wasn’t there, having a cuddle with fellow models was a good cure, too, though I’m a bit embarrassed by my neediness in those times – other girls always seem to cope better. (“Seem” is a keyword here: clearly, as Pandora’s post shows, not everybody is as level-headed as all that.)
I wonder how it would work if the person topping me in a video was also one of my usual play-partners, so that we could carry on playing well after the cameras went off – with necessary allowances for my soreness. Presumably, this would eliminate the disconnect, but I wonder if afterwards I would need help coming down from my coming-down session. I’ve never shot with a playmate before. (I was going to, earlier this year, but I had to cancel, grrr.) This will be interesting some time.
Yet another solution would be to jump the bones of whoever is the video top, even if he or she isn’t my usual playmate at all, but throwing oneself at another model is just unprofessional. If I were them, I’d be wary of that too: endorphin goggles are like beer goggles, only scarier. I’m not given to after-play regrets, but they’re not to know that, right?
Anyway, cuddles seem to be the best, most practical cure: they’re safe, easy to come by, and are unlikely to cause embarrassment. That said, I’d like to shoot with a playmate some time. (In addition, I wish there was a way of turning some of my previous video partners into real-life play partners, but that’s a separate post altogether.)
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“…throwing oneself at another model is just unprofessional.”
**polite cough**
Having made films with Tom, I can testify that it’s not much easier coming down from the same shoot together … although mostly because he has healthy problems which mean that after expending that much energy during a shoot, he’s flat on his back as soon as we’re home.
Snuggles are definitely the answer, I think. In fact I might write a follow-up post about the scene T and I tried to play after I wrote the post you quoted…
I agree with the snuggles therapy. I thought I was going insane with my strange post-scene flood of irrational emotion, until someone told me about “Top Drop” and its best remedy: extended aftercare with plenty of snuggling. It’s not a cure, but it helps keep me sane and able to play again another day.
There’s an interesting mismatch of needs here between the model and her partner.
The model’s partner will have spent a long day watching the shoot, surrounded by beautiful, intelligent women being spanked. Chances are, he won’t have played at all during the day. Worse, he may be left feeling quite excluded – everyone else having fun, while he stands watching from the side, the kid in the playground with whom no-one wants to play.
I know that personally by the end of a shoot I’ve attended, I’m desperate to play and buzzing with scene ideas. And Adele isn’t – or, if she is, she wants it to be a continuation of the filmed scene with the film top(s). Or, possibly, some fun with the other spanked girls!
Cuddling her clearly helps her to come down from the high of the shoot. It’s good to play “useful partner”, but it’s not a terribly satisfying end to the day.
Good point Mr Haze, that is an aspect that us out here in fan land have no knowledge of. It is something to think about.
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Adele — if we are ever at the same shoot, you would never need to be embarrased about neediness — I’d be delighted to cuddle you — and probably need cuddles of my own! :)
wow!!! this is somthing That I’v never seen touched on a forum before! I hope I’m allowed to reply here, As I’m always the top. Of course I get a rush when building a new vid, exspecialy new model, new experiance. I always remain professinal, but there has been those certain moments. After the shooting is finished and the Girl and I find Ourselves with adreniline flowing. (Have I always acted in a professinal manner) I’m only human, But I can proudly state that I have maintained a friendship with every Girl that has ever shot on My site. at whatever level it might be. My regular offer after a day or evening of shooting is, Would you like to have dinner on Me? This is with no strings attached. If They have time time and care to I treat them to a nice resurant well (Outback steak house) I treat My actresses like hollywood super stars and that is why so many of Them return for future shoots. Truth is, I’m all work and no play, You can’t run a business like this and have a regular relationship!