(LOL “Oh, please, Miss! Not the definition! Please don’t define me, I’ll be good!”)

Fess, come back whenever you feel like it; I’ll be here. Any flames are unlikely, seeing as I’m a control-freak, and hand-approve all new comments :)

I’ve never identified as a feminist because I have such negative (read: Dworkinian) associations with the word. I have trouble dissociating it from “antiporn.” But I suppose I am one by your definition and by my clear discomfort with the Incompetent Female thing. It’s just such a loaded term that means different things to different people and I don’t like being lumped in with the few bad apples. I’m an individualist first and foremost.

I completely understand your ambivalence. I often see in my logs that my blog has been visited by individuals from countries that are well known for their poor treatment of women. Perhaps, I hope, these are the more enlightened members of those societies. Then again, perhaps they are not.

Could my words be encouraging some rogue to abuse a non-consenting woman or girl? I recoil at the prospect.

I think my blog is pretty clear about the nature of our spanking relationsip. However, to someone with a limited knowledge of English, those explanations could, I suppose, be lost.

Like you, this possibility is not sufficient to cause me to stop sharing my spanking experiences. On the whole, I believe we do more considerably good than harm. Nevertheless, that sliver of doubt remains.

I suppose the ambiguous nature of this subject makes clear, simple answers elusive. For now, I have something to say and good people who want to hear it. That will have to do.

Thanks for your insightful words.

I identify as a feminist, and as such, I claim the right to do with myself (body and mind) just as I please, without an approval from Big Brother (or Big Sister). When I thought it would please me to act out my fantasies in spanking films, I went and started making them. I don’t see it as objectification of my body, but rather as an affirmation of female sexuality (or spankuality). Thus, I don’t see the contradition here. When it’s the model’s fantasy that drives the scene, any subjugation is in the eye of the beholder: it’s as illusory as the idea that the spanker is in control of the scene.

However – and that’s where I feel uneasy – the finished film doesn’t just serve to express my sexuality, and I’m very aware that the aforementioned beholder may actually exist. To this extent, I’m sometimes worried that the conventions of the spanking genre may become a ready breeding ground for creeps of the type cited in the entry up there.

The question is: do I feel the need to restrain the expression of my spankuality just because a number of creeps might take it the wrong way?

Or, if you like, the question could be wider: to what extent are the people who make spanking films responsible for the effects their material has on consumers?

I’ve been wondering about this lately, because it’s been discussed (in a wider porn context) over here on SugarBank . I’m not really *concerned* about it, because I haven’t *actually* seen anything that proved to me that anybody was using spanking films as a relationship manual. But I do wonder.

I’m not sure where postfeminism comes into this.

I’m also not sure whether I’ve addressed your confusion, because I can’t *quite* figure out what you’re so confused about.