Comments on: “I like you, but not really.” http://adelehaze.com/i-like-you-but-not-really/ A Blog of Musings on the Science of Artistic Suffering Fri, 30 Mar 2012 05:37:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Adele http://adelehaze.com/i-like-you-but-not-really/comment-page-1/#comment-92 Adele Tue, 07 Mar 2006 09:24:16 +0000 http://adelehaze.com/?p=30#comment-92 BTW, congratulations on your Northern Spanking debut, Niki. That sailor suit is a dream! BTW, congratulations on your Northern Spanking debut, Niki. That sailor suit is a dream!

]]> By: Adele http://adelehaze.com/i-like-you-but-not-really/comment-page-1/#comment-91 Adele Tue, 07 Mar 2006 09:23:21 +0000 http://adelehaze.com/?p=30#comment-91 You're *sorry* for the rant? LOL You're having a larf; why have a blog if you can't have a round-robin rant-fest? Mind you, I can enjoy a cheesy little scene as much as the next person. I can even find pleasure in doing something that isn't really my thing, getting off instead on the "oh dear, these mean people are making me do/wear/say things I don't like" scenario in my head. Yep, I will do things that aren't my kink, if I can find them otherwise compelling. However, I can't reconcile myself with the mindset that says a spanking model must express nothing but pleasure *even when she's being thrashed black-and-blue*. Pretending to be a pain slut when I'm not one borders on the same sort of deception, I think, as it would be for vanilla girl to claim that she's actually kinky. Never mind that it's really quite intrusive not only to dictate what I must do (which is fair enough), but also what I must feel - or pretend I feel - while I'm at it. Meh. Forgive me, but when the action hurts, I will suffer, and when it brings me pleasure, I will moan, but not vice versa. You’re *sorry* for the rant? LOL You’re having a larf; why have a blog if you can’t have a round-robin rant-fest?

Mind you, I can enjoy a cheesy little scene as much as the next person. I can even find pleasure in doing something that isn’t really my thing, getting off instead on the “oh dear, these mean people are making me do/wear/say things I don’t like” scenario in my head. Yep, I will do things that aren’t my kink, if I can find them otherwise compelling.

However, I can’t reconcile myself with the mindset that says a spanking model must express nothing but pleasure *even when she’s being thrashed black-and-blue*. Pretending to be a pain slut when I’m not one borders on the same sort of deception, I think, as it would be for vanilla girl to claim that she’s actually kinky.

Never mind that it’s really quite intrusive not only to dictate what I must do (which is fair enough), but also what I must feel – or pretend I feel – while I’m at it.

Meh. Forgive me, but when the action hurts, I will suffer, and when it brings me pleasure, I will moan, but not vice versa.

]]> By: Niki Flynn http://adelehaze.com/i-like-you-but-not-really/comment-page-1/#comment-90 Niki Flynn Tue, 07 Mar 2006 00:11:23 +0000 http://adelehaze.com/?p=30#comment-90 I couldn't agree with you more. I could probably PLAY a consensual scene, but it wouldn't push my buttons at all. And I hear plenty from guys who say they love watching scenes where the girl is obviously into what she's doing, that she's playing out her own fantasies rather than just "acting" or going along with what some man in a fawn raincoat and a dodgy accent says she should do. OK, for me those scenes go into dark psychological realms where many others have no desire to go. I often have to reassure people that yes, I'm really into this, I may be a bit mad, but it's what pushes my buttons and I'm sorry, but I can't help the way I'm wired. If someone really wanted me to do the moaning/gasping, "Oh, it's sooo biiiig!" porn star thing, or the bat-my-big-brown-eyes "Oh, honey, I think I need a spanky!" I could probably manage it, but I'd be pissing myself laughing (that's someone's kink right there) and feeling like the guys were getting ripped off because how could I do it without feeling like I was mocking their fantasy? Eek. Sorry for the rant, but I've had similar (be polite) "constructive" suggestions before and they really, really irk me. I file those with the one from the wanker who said I wasn't "the REAL" Niki Flynn, just someone cashing in on her notoriety. WTF??? I couldn’t agree with you more. I could probably PLAY a consensual scene, but it wouldn’t push my buttons at all. And I hear plenty from guys who say they love watching scenes where the girl is obviously into what she’s doing, that she’s playing out her own fantasies rather than just “acting” or going along with what some man in a fawn raincoat and a dodgy accent says she should do. OK, for me those scenes go into dark psychological realms where many others have no desire to go. I often have to reassure people that yes, I’m really into this, I may be a bit mad, but it’s what pushes my buttons and I’m sorry, but I can’t help the way I’m wired. If someone really wanted me to do the moaning/gasping, “Oh, it’s sooo biiiig!” porn star thing, or the bat-my-big-brown-eyes “Oh, honey, I think I need a spanky!” I could probably manage it, but I’d be pissing myself laughing (that’s someone’s kink right there) and feeling like the guys were getting ripped off because how could I do it without feeling like I was mocking their fantasy?

Eek. Sorry for the rant, but I’ve had similar (be polite) “constructive” suggestions before and they really, really irk me. I file those with the one from the wanker who said I wasn’t “the REAL” Niki Flynn, just someone cashing in on her notoriety. WTF???

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