Comments on: Learning spanking technique from video

By: Sound Punishment

Sound Punishment — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 16:26:08 +0000

We all have to learn somewhere. I saw lots of film canings before I even had the chance to do it myself. I also destroyed a lot of cushions trying out my technique before attempting it on a lady! All this was of course a long time ago as I have been filming top roles now for many years!

My hero in spanking films was always Ivor Gold. His delivery of the cane was as accurate and precise as was his dialogue. ‘Pithy’ was one word I used to describe him.

One day Adele may like to ‘audition’ for SoundPunishment .. then maybe she will consider adding me to her list of “limited number of unequivocally competent camera tops” ……. my having made over 300 films for my own and other companies :-)

By: Swishuk

Swishuk — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 13:09:33 +0000

Would be nice to see a vid where both parties clearly enjoyed the scene. or is that too kinky.
Would be nice too, and very erotic, to see an “instructional” vid looking at various mplements and their use, even exploring knickers v. bare (for us really weird people )

By: Frants

Frants — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 10:38:26 +0000

I started spanking girls (with various implements) before there were any videos to be seen, nor a scene, clubs or literature. Not in my part of the world then. We had to learn from trial and error. These days, some of the spanking porn can be instructive. But I have sent a great number of tips to major spanking sites about what they do wrong. Such as hitting too high up with canes, or using canes with split ends. Or beating too fast when they do it hard.
Still I think many ‘pro’ spankers can use some advice from all of you experienced and cautious amateurs.

By: Csheriff

Csheriff — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 10:11:31 +0000

I suppose you can learn options, but as with sex, you don’t just thrust them upon someone who is there to enjoy themselves too. Aim for them to enjoy it more than you, and you can’t go far wrong This is the best advice I’v read! I would advize never Use a singel one of My vids or any other from a spanking site for a (set-up, role play, or What You may just want to happen. I’m telling You truley. She won’t be abel to handel it and Your going to spoil Your playdate, with littel chance of schedualing another one! If the two of You are already in the mindset of playing out a spanking senerio, Let Her watch some of Your favorite (vids, downloads, dvd’s) and tell Her I have something in mind like this, but not ever that exstream. {We’ll work slow, and make it fun, I’ll always stop if Your uncomfortable (IMMEDIENTLY) I would not recommend using useing professinal terms for a date like this, such as (safe word, sweetspot, otk) This is only a playdate and coming out with too many tech terms could intimidate and make Her think = He’s got this way too planed out! take it slow, savor each moment! Lots of rubbing Her bottom after each swat, while insuring Her I don’t want to leave a bruise! Fun for Both and You can build from there!

By: Keith

Keith — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 09:17:09 +0000

I suppose you can learn options, but as with sex, you don’t just thrust them upon someone who is there to enjoy themselves too. Aim for them to enjoy it more than you, and you can’t go far wrong.

By: Punisherblues

Punisherblues — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 07:38:58 +0000

Why i do agree with you that you can learn from some of the cp companys it is better to have more hands on time before you try any of the more harder things like canes whips.if a person is new to the life than i would also say they should if possable ask someone who has been into it for a little ensite as to how to go about it and not just turn some one over and just wack away

By: alicat

alicat — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 01:20:42 +0000

I’m strange, I think. I don’t really like hurting people, but spankings have to!! However – some of the heavier sites seem to really damage peoples bums and I am uncomfortable with that. Punishment must hurt to be effective – but not too much. If people enjoy pain it must hurt too… I can only assume that the best way is to know where your boundaries lie with you and your partner. You can’t get that from videos. Oh dear, it’s sooo dificult!!!

By: bodack

bodack — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 23:52:03 +0000

I think it is a good way to start. Face it, very few people get a chance to meet enough people in the scene to practice with. This was a real problem for me in my younger days. I had a girlfriend who was into getting spanked and she was the first one who brought it to my attention in a sexual matter. Later girlfriends showed some interest in it. Then I get to a really serious relationship and it caused problems. She didn’t get it. She considered it degrading. Unlike my friends girlfriends and wives who were interested in it a a domestic discipline level.

Watching a variety of videos from lets say “Real Spankings” teaches you that some people like different instruments. And people have different tolerance levels. Shadowlane.com has erotic spanking and tutorial on how to get your lover into it.

I have heard Doms say this and I have to agree. To be a good spanker you have to spend some time on the receiving end. I didn’t realize that light and fast was more effective ( and erotic) then really hard and slow.

Pandora brought up a good point that real life spanking are usually very quick although although I have read posts from some women who prefer a long drawn out ritual.

By: fabian

fabian — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 23:36:34 +0000

I’m German, so my english is not so good. What other way is there to learn techniques? When you are searching for a partner for any kind of bdsm experience you’ll always hear “you are too young, I#m searching for an experienced Dom” Honestly this “boys have to be fully educated in terms of sex before the first time” pisses me off in general, but, in fetish things this gets much worse. There are maybe 2 guys on 1 girl, doesn’t matter wether you search for a Domina or a Sub, the girls make the choice. So, if you are lucky and get someone convinced to have kinky sex, you better be good the first time you try…

apart from that: Most girls seem to need to be about 20 to realize they need something else than prince charming on the white horse (means: fetish sex, anal sex, or something else kinky) and then need a MAN who is at least 5 years older. What should a boy from 15 (17?18?) to 25 do, if not using porn?

By: Drifter

Drifter — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 21:42:59 +0000

*Just* from vids…I wouldn’t think so. It’s difficult to tell just how much something might hurt, from a video, especially if the bottom has a high pain tolerance.

Bu-u-u-ut, it could be a tool among many. Some vids, at different levels of intensity, combined with blogs and articles about spanking or domination. It might be should be able to see that *most* people don’t react to a hard caning with a little squirmy ‘ow.’