Natty, you do realize A. is apparently seeing men doing online courting as a form of pickup line spamming? No wonder you find it annoying! ;)

It’s funny because I keep thinking about why it bothered me so much. I mean, as you point out, guys will say far more repulsive things, like, say, involving their abilities with summoning certain male bodily fluids while reading my blog, etc.

I guess it was this feeling of annoyance that a total stranger would try to role-play with me without asking my consent. And I’m quite grateful that you point out that just because I write about spanking doesn’t mean I’m asking to be objectified. Indeed the purpose of my blog, as well as yours, is to give voice to someone who has traditional not had that voice.

On the other hand, A. said to me that it was probably just some guy like one he knew in his twenties who would go around to every woman at a party or bar and ask her to shag. Ninety-nine percent would say “no” of course, but there would always be one who would say yes. It was just a matter of playing the odds for him, knowing that if he asked enough women, one would say yes. And because it was online, there was even less risk for this bloke.

That and Lancisto’s point about guys assuming that all women respond to the same stimuli kinda sum it up I think.

Lancs’s inner caveman – you’re all brains and natural tacfullness, my dear; where should I go to drape myself over your lap as soon as possible?

However in a face-to-face situation you can often get away with an outrageous opening remark – if it is not appreciated then more often than not a swift apology or self-deprecating remark can defuse the situation. Sadly, you cannot do that without the appropriate body language.

It’s just occured to me that I don’t really have a point to make, I’m just wittering so I shall stop now.

Nice rant…. inspired by a row on a web forum perchance?

I don’t think I’ve told you before that I’m an avid reader of your blog. You write beautifully and you always make me laugh.

Katie