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A new direction (Adele goes domme)
I have something of a dilemma about where my blog is going, and I hope you munchkins will be able to help me distil my thinking into something we all like.
DISCLAIMER: I have always written about representation of kink in the media and about the state of erotic arts, and I will still always write about that. This topic isn’t going away.
With the above in mind…
This site is 4 1/5 years old, which isn’t just ancient in blog years, but also a decent stretch of time in a human’s life, particularly if one happens to be a young person developing as a grown-up and a kinkster. When I started blogging, I thought that I was done finding out everything about my kinks, and now all I had to do was chronicle my adventures.
(Pauses for the laughter to die down.)
Since I started blogging, not only have I turned from a young girl into an adult, I have also developed a fine collection of kinks that I hadn’t explored before. Mostly these have to do with me growing more dominant and much more sadistic, but also with coming to enjoy male submission more than I ever have before.
These feelings hybernated at the back of my mind for a long time, while I merrily continued to blog in the same X/F vein, until three weeks ago I met and clicked with a gloriously submissive boy. (His name is Jimmy. You may have seen him before.) I have spent most of my spare time since then thinking about spanking people, tying them up, and doing other unspeakable, delicious things. Like a banner unfurling inside my head, my dominant side took prominence in my fantasies, and simply won’t be ignored any more. I’m lucky to be able to explore and indulge it in real-life, but now I also want to write about it – a lot.
I know you munchkins are used to seeing me as a bottom/submissive, or at most mildly switchy, and that a sudden flood of femdom pictures and writing may be quite jarring. (Aside: you think you’re surprised? Spare a thought for my poor husband, a 100% top.) I feel a bit bad about ambushing you with Surprise!FemdomPr0n. Now, of course, this blog is my space, and I do absolutely feel free to write anything I like here, but even so I’m wary of taking an attitude of “too bad, suckers, you may have stayed with me and supported me for years, but now this blog is about undewater cross-stitching, and I don’t care if it squicks you”.
Fair warning, then. In the near future you’re going to hear quite a lot about my topping exploits. (Jimmy has given me permission to write about him; the poor lamb doesn’t know what he’s getting himself into.) You may also see a lot of art featuring male submission. Yep, that includes naked boy bits. It also includes M/M, because it makes me hot.
(The X/F isn’t going anywhere, obviously, inasmuch as my interest in girls being spanked hasn’t gone anywhere. But boys need beating too, you know?)
This was your warning shot. I hope you can adjust, and enjoy what I have to say in the future.
E-lust 15
Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers!
~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
Evolution – Open Marriage, Swinging, & Polyamory – Do we REALLY believe that there is one love for us? Do we really believe there’s one cock or pussy to fuck for the rest of our life?
Sweet To Taste – “I’m dinner tonight,” she breathes. “So don’t let me get cold before you start feasting.”
Having a boyfriend makes me feel fat - I know my worth as a person isn’t devalued by my weight – but I can’t get past the notion that my worth as a partner is.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
Fucked by a Stranger – For as long as I can remember, I’ve had this bizarre, twisted fantasy. The roads leading to it were different, but the end result the same: a stranger fucking a very willing me in my bed in the dead of night.
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
At Her Mercy – “You have been such a good boy today. Where do you want me to put your cock next?” she said with a wink.
See also: Pleasurists #78 and #79 for all your sex toy review needs.
Story: The Price (FM/M)
NOTE: This is fresh out of the note-pad and only lightly edited, but it should give you an idea of where my thoughts have been for the last couple of weeks.
THE PRICE
by Adele Haze
For Jimmy
The boy sleeps.
Sybille watches the shadows of his limbs under the thin sheet, the sweat on his brow, the tangled mess of hair. An expression of desperation is set on his damp face, as though he’s clinging to the solace of sleep, determined not to let go. Narrow fingers are clenched on the edge of the sheet, which is drawn tightly around all of his angles.
She turns to Jax, her high priest, and nods. “This one,” she says under her breath.
He bows, “As you say, Lady.” He squints at the number cut into the leather band around the boy’s upper arm; Sybille sees him make a mental mark for tomorrow. Temple slaves don’t have names; she knows the boys name each other, for fondness of for convenience, but she pretends not to notice them taking this liberty. Her chosen one’s number is seventeen.
She throws a glance around the long hall, the many straw pallets there: all young men, all asleep. She suddenly wants to change her mind: to place the burden on some other shoulders, not these. Let some other boy weep and break. Yet, the trial is not only his, but hers also: what she admires, she must give away.
She exchanges another glance with Jax and walks away. Let the boy sleep, even if she can not.
***
Christina Aguilera does fetish
So, munchkins, have you seen what kind of fetish videos you can make if you have a huge budget?
Here’s one that Christina Aguilera has just released:
http://www.dailymotion.com/videoxd8r89
The song’s a bit ick, but there’s lots to get inspired by in the imagery.
P.S. Forgive my silence: I’ve been working on an urgent offline project with some friends, and in the midst of it I met a new lover. You can get quite distracted while learning to top somebody new and delicious, of which more tomorrow.
E-lust 14
Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers!
~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
Answers with an Agenda 1- Fisting – Once you’ve gotten started using two fingers for a bit, then it is time to build until four fingers are sliding in and out of the person, and you are on your way.
Gagged – I think it’s got to be a combination – fingers sliding into your cunt, a merciless tease of your clit, and yes, it’s going to have to be, lining my cock up with your ass.
Mine – I feel you stir beneath me as I create a rhythm, your breathing changing growing more shallow as you slip from sleep into arousal. My eyes lift to yours as you smile and try to move your arms and then freeze.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
Puppet Master – When I was right next to them and they still did not notice, I put my lips to his ear (loud music, you know) and whispered “Touch her boobs, I bet she’d like that” and I backed up a foot.
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
Shaping Some Limits - ‘If you ever did that to me, I promise you would never see me again’.Those words were spoken to me this past weekend by my pet during one of our overnight dates. The subject was face slapping.
See also: Pleasurists #77 for all your sex toy review needs.
Dangerous Wands
Put together “Harry Potter” and “Dangerous Minds”, and what do you get?
This one is really “insert your own spanking” material, but I can’t pass up anything that’s school-themed, and hilarious as well.
12 licks of the tawse
I’m sitting somewhat uncomfortably right now, because of a quick, but painful discussion Mr Haze has just had with me about attention to detail. Each stroke of the rather nasty tawse made me pay very close attention.
Pain tolerance and spanking modelling
Munchkins, what do we think about the importance of pain tolerance in spanking models?
I’ve been musing about the subject this week, because my own tolerance is not that great right now. I got a smacking with a fairly standard leather paddle the other day, and made so much fuss that the guy spanking me thought I was acting. (No, I wasn’t. I was sending honest signals about the level of pain I was experiencing.) Mind you, the presence of cameras seems to do wonders to my pain tolerance, shooting it straight up, but that’s not where my thoughts are at the moment.
In a normal spanking scene it’s the subjective level of pain that’s important. When I’m spanking somebody, I like to take them to a certain level of discomfort, far enough for them to think, “Ouchie! This smarts! My poor bottom!” How much force I have to use in order to get there, doesn’t really matter to me. It’s the reaction that feeds my sadism, not the energy I put into getting that reaction.
In films, the reaction is, obviously, very important. Yet, if not very much force is used, the film doesn’t look very dramatic. Canings, for example, usually look much, much milder on film than they feel. (I’ve watched couple of my NSI films thinking, “I’m sure that felt a lot harder than it looks like.”) So a model has to be able to take enough pain that, not only can she give authentic reactions, but also the action looks impressive.
Obviously, a model can stop the action whenever she likes. Nobody should have to take more than she’s comfortable with. At the same time, how annoying would it be to book a model only to find that her pain threshold is so low that she can’t produce more than a minute’s worth of film?
I’m glad that I’m not a spanking film producer, because my instinct would be to keep my models happy and bouncy. Pain tolerance snobbery makes me extremely uncomfortable, so I may end up with lots of very underwhelming movies.
You have to be able to take quite a lot of pain, even to work for the mildest companies out there, and that’s a fact of life.
Religious smut
OK, this piece of news has amused me, although normally I’m not a fan of publicity stunts.
Members of the Atheist Agenda, a student organization at the University of Texas at San Antonio, are encouraging students to trade in religious texts for pornography this week with their “Smut for Smut” campaign.
In the view of club members, religious texts are as smutty as pornography because they contain violence and torture and spark religious wars. But mostly, it’s a public relations stunt meant to ignite debate and attract new members to the club.
I don’t know about “just as smutty”, because most of the religious texts I’ve read didn’t contain any pictures. While I’m all for textual smut, I have observed over my blogging years that pictorial smut tends to be a lot more popular, so.
However, I will confess that when I read kids’ edition of the New Testament for the first time at the age of 10 – I didn’t know what happened, so was riveted – I got extraordinarily excited by the bits where Jesus was whipped. The killing part didn’t work for me, but the whipping made me pause and reread. In many respects, the Bible was my first porn.
Good job I’m an atheist, because if there was a hell, I’d be going there.
(via Radical Vixen)
Two friends against the world
I find myself compelled to post this music video (“Geboren um zu leben” by Unheilig) not because it has a specific spanking incident, but because it illustrates with painful perfection what sort of thing fuelled my spanking fantasies when I was a kid (as discussed on SpankingCast Ep. 4). Also, the song is great:
http://www.dailymotion.com/videoxbx78r
Obviously, I imagine myself playing the role of Our Brave Persecuted Hero (aged 10), but it’s not just the persecution (personified by the evil guardian) that makes the fantasy for me. It’s also the presence of the Faithful Friend and Companion: the sharing of suffering, triumphs and inevitable punishment, having somebody to care and ache for, to rely on – even if all you can do for each other is hold hands when the belt swishes down, as you’re punished together.
It’s a strange idea, and I’ve never thought about this before, but apparently, friendship is a very important part of my kink.
