Spontaneous dirty talk
Rants, Raves and Reviews — By Adele on 28 June, 2007 9:11 pmSpeaking of Bettie Page. Have you watched “The Notorious Bettie Page”? I saw it with Mr Haze in a cinema completely filled with men. Many of them looked as though they didn’t quite want to be seen at the screening, as though this was not Odeon, but a Soho shop with a viewing booth at the back. Bless the wee innocents.
Anyway, the scene of the movie that stuck with me was when Bettie is approached by a fan who insists that he’s sure she really hates men. It isn’t a point of confrontation for him: he really wants her to confirm it. “I bet you want to humiliate me,” he says, gazing searchingly into her face. He longs to be verbally dominated – all in a vanilla, every-day atmosphere. Essentialy he attempts to draw Bettie into a role-play against her will.
I was reminded of the guys who start conversations with me with “You’re such a naughty girl, Adele.” Er, no. Unless we’re at a spanking party, or we’ve played before, or we’re at least remotely acquainted, you don’t get to tell me I’m a naughty girl.
(I do make an exception for several actors, who can phone me and tell me off whenever they like. Yes, David Tennant, I’m talking about you.)
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David Tennant, really? I mean–okay, he’s got a minor appeal…not as Barty Crouch, of course… but in Doctor Who. Chris Eccleston can scold me anytime, though :)
So if it’s anyone at a spanking party, or anyone who has ever played with you, or anyone who is even remotely acquainted….. or David Tennant or any one of several other actors, that’s OK.
Whereas if a complete stranger for some reason randomly starts a conversation by telling you you’re a naughty girl, they are a scum bag.
Yes, I think I’d be offended by that too.
Ah yes, the old pseudo-familiarity phenomenon. They see you on screen, they think they know you.
And yes, I’m a freakin’ hypocrite — if I fancy the man at first sight, then he can be as familiar as he pleases. :-)
When my g/f (a dancer) and I saw Gretchen Mol’s wonderful portryal in an Encino (LA) cinema, the matinee audience was mainly women. On leaving we got into a wonderful conversation with two of them – a daughter wheeling her mom in a wheelchair. Mom turned out to have been a stripper in Bettie’s era. It was a fascinating and totally unembarassed discussion about show-dance and striptease.
If you enjoyed Mary Haron’s film (she wote, directed and executive produced The Notorious Bettie Page), you should try to watch a horror film she wrote and directed: American Psycho, about a New York banker – also a psychopathic killer – played by Christian Bale.
R
Some people – especially men – simply do not understand. There is a difference between real life and spanking world. There maybe some rare couples who live 24/24 spanking relationship.
But most spankos and spankees do not.
Beeing scolded, spanked, humiliated in my spanking world/dreams/fantasies/roleplays (you name it) is one thing. But in
every day life I want to be respected. People do not know the difference between these two worlds are not into spanking for real. They are looking for something different. I am afraid I do not like what they are looking for.
Keep up your good blog!
Emma
I have to agree. David Tennant is one of three men that almost make me reconsider my lifestyle. And it is not [just] for looks either. David Tennant could make me weak at the knees just by reading the stock market report. Joshua Mailina may well be all that keeps me watching American Television.
And let’s not talk about Alan Rickman.
Be Safe, Take Care.
Kate.
Personaly I prefere it when it is a total stranger that tells me “your such a naughty girl” It reminds me that I forgot to take the dress and make up off before leaving the house and gives me a chance to get back inside before one of the neighbours see me.
Yours, definately a a bloke (honest, I fart in bed, quote Blackadder and everything)
Prefectdt
I vote that we DO talk about Alan Rickman. And that guy that plays Mr. Malfoy…Jason something, right? I’m terrible with famous names…
Ruby
I thought that “The Notorious Bettie Page” was a very good movie, but it was
depressing in a number of ways. Ms. Page graduated number two in her
High School class and narrowly missed being class valadictorian. In the 1950s
and early 1960 there were very few options for women. You could get
married, you could work as a secretary or you could teach. There were
very few women in other professions and gender discrimination was overt
and unappologetic. Betty Page modeled not as much out of choice but
because this was one of the few options that paid decently.
What was depressing was not Betty Pages choice, but her lack of other
possible choices. The film reminded me that although we still have a ways
to go, there has been real progress when it comes to gender discrimination.
We live in an era where bright young ladies can choose to model or do
sex work, but it is one choice among many.