Taking stock of my sexuality

Private Life and Play — By Adele on 14 December, 2009 6:12 pm

You won’t have seen a meme on my site before, because I believe that these things are a fun game for you and your closest friends, but pretty dull for everyone else. And I don’t like boring folks who’ve never done anything to deserve it.

However, right now I’m blogging so that I can keep my sanity as I grieve my father. This involves a lot of thinking about who I am. And this particular meme (written by Graham-the-Girl) looks like something that may help me in this. Also, it’s the best spanking meme I’ve ever encountered.

1. Tell us your Kinsey rating! (That is, where you fall, approximately, on the spectrum of sexuality, with zero being “only attracted to members of the opposite sex” and six being “only attracted to members of the same sex.” Follow the link for the full breakdown.)

Where sex is concerned, I’m about 4, which Wikipedia explains as “predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual”. It took me years to work out that I very rarely felt like having sex not because I didn’t like sex, but because I was trying it with the wrong gender! D’oh.

With spanking, I’m a 2, meaning that I prefer to be spanked by men. I couldn’t figure out why this was, until I realised that my favourite spanking fantasies are set in sexless environments, and being topped by men eliminated the pesky sexual undercurrent that can derail the whole scene.

In love, I’m a firm 3. I’m equally likely to fall in love with men and women. I’m also poly, which means I can be in love with more than one person at a time, though at this time I’m only in love with my husband.

2. Spanking / BDSM  “type” that suits you best (switch, top, masochist, grand-master-wizard, etc.):

Bottom, with sadistic tendencies.

3. Favorite blog / site of the moment (kinky/spanking-themed):

Northern Spanking. Because I’m sad, and NSI’s films are guaranteed to make me smile.

4. Favorite non-kinky blog / site of the moment:

Twitter for companionship, Shadow Unit for reading material and Galactic Watercooler for getting my geek on.

5. Latest spanking fantasy floating in your head:

When I’m sad, I retreat to my favourite fantasy where I’m a magician’s apprentice. Not a stage magician, you understand: a proper one. He’s very, very strict.

6. Blogger you’d like to spank / be spanked by:

I’m always, always up for a spanking from Richard Farthingdale from the late, great Lowewood Academy blog.

7. Age when you lost your (consensual, adult) spanking virginity — if this has yet to happen, give us a prediction or goal!

Eighteen. I didn’t wait around.

8. Favorite literary reference (excluding spanking stories!):

In “To Kill a Mockingbird”, where Scout gets spanked by Uncle Jack. It’s not even described, but there’s a long discussion afterwards, where the young uncle explains himself to Scout’s father. I may or may not have imagined Atticus dealing with Jack on occassion, as well.

There’re also several references and threats throughout the book. I just love it.

9. Strangest limit:

I don’t role-play being spanked for stealing. The idea of being even a pretend thief sicken me. Murder is, oddly, not a problem.

10. Some Random Vanilla Trivia, in the grand tradition of memehood… Like, “what are you listening to right now,” or “what’s your favorite fruit,” or anything similarly banal.

My favourite gel pen is Pilot G2.

Thank you for reading to the end. Here’s a photo from the Spanking Server to reward you: