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Today is Spanko Delurk Day
I’m jumping onto the band-wagon pushed by Bonnie, who has declared that today is a Spanking Blog Delurk Day.
If you read this blog, but never say hello in the comments, today is your day. I know how scary it is: I’m a dedicated lurker myself. But today you have nothing to fear.
You may think that you don’t have anything original to say, but that’s OK. You can start with picking a name you want to be known by, and telling me anything at all about your interest in spanking. Do you play? Do you watch videos? What would you really want to see on video, but can’t get?
After you’ve done this, you won’t be a stranger any more, and leaving further comments will be the easiest thing in the world.
I think, Bonnie is running a list of blogs participating in the Delurk Day, so if you fancied jumping into the community with both feet, you could go and leave *lots* of comments, on *lots* of blogs.
Meanwhile, here’s a home snap of me suffering. The Caning Maestro is my best mate Brenna.
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Well this has been an adventure. I enjoyed your blog. Here’s wishing you plenty of comments!
Hugs
Theresa
Hi everyone I am a lurker. I check spankingblog.com,spanking model speaks , and spkrbryan everyday. I really enjoy the content of allof them. Adel said she wanted in fo on lurkers so here we go. I particpate in giving spankings not as often as I would like, usually a light slap on the rear of one of my female friends if she is being naughty or the occasional light otk with my vanilla girlfriend. I understand you are in the spanking industry, I love that there is an industry. I join realspankings.com a couple of months every year, and have also joined firm hand and spankingonline from time to time. I have every mood dvd up to In the Name of Love, a dozen Lupos movies including some classics, a couple Girls Boarding School DVDs, and a couple Nettles movies. I have only recently looked inside to my love of spanking women and I must say it makes me think about why I would enjoy such hard core action. I am still searching. I am a 27 yr old male living in the center of the US and am a graduate student. I love spanking and I love the home pic above. Your face shows the pain on your rear. This is my first spanking site post.
Theresa – thanks! Happy delurk day to you too.
Grant – welcome :) This was a very brave first comment; good for you! I don’t know that any of us understand in our heart of hearts what it is about spanking that makes us tingle, but hey. We’ve got the kink, we might as well enjoy it. :)
Just saying hi and thank you. You and the other bloggers really helped me learn and understand my interest in spanking.
Hi, that’s me. You Know Who. :)
Greg – hello there :) Glad to be of use. Here’s to many years of happy spankings.
t’Larien – {{{hugs}}} Hello, my dear. :) I’d hoped to hear from you here.
Well, here I am.
There’ll be a meeting of our city BDSM community in two weeks – I plan to visit it. Wish you were here. :)
Dear Adele,
Well, I guess now is my chance. The nearly exhibitionist desire to share my “secret life” and its challenges with the world (yet, with no one I really know personally) has been burning me from the inside for a while, and am deeply grateful to Adele for giving me the chance.
I was fascinated by spanking and CP ever since I can remember myself, trying to play out something vaguely kinky with a girl friend sometime before I even started school. Interestingly, I was never actually subjected to any CP by my parents or in school. As I grew up and discovered where children come from and embraced my awakening sexuality, I realized that the dream of being spanked I always had was highly arousing and wanted it to happen in the context of a relationship with a man. Since the age of maybe 17 I was engaging into something Wikipedia defines as “topping from the bottom (?),” asking otherwise perfectly straight men I was in a relationship with to do kinky things to me and instructing them how. That didn’t really get particularly exciting until some years ago, in one of my literature classes in college (I still remember we were reading Dubliners), I met this brilliant, perfectly straight and sweet student from the West, a devout Catholic who came from a small town. Keeping up with my topping from the bottom practice, I initiated him into my deepest darkest desires. “Interesting,” said he, thinking that this must be some Eastern European cultural practice, and he was open to learning about it.
Let me tell you, it is indeed an interesting cultural experience to bring a perfectly straight man to being aroused (and, quite obviously, erect) by whipping his wife’s bare bottom with a cane. Thanks to my husband’s many years of theater experience, he’s able to ace the roles I ask him to play. But being kinky is a downward spiral, and it only gets deeper and darker with time, and sharing those new fantasies is like peeling an onion, unraveling new pungent layers with tears in my eyes. Let me tell you, incorporating new kinky fantasies into practice is not easy, and tears (on my part) often follow indeed, although my husband always plays his role perfectly after certain adjustment period. In the course of five years we went from tying up to spanking to spanking with implements as a foreplay, to really painful spanking and punishment spanking not involving sex, to schoolgirl/teacher (funny, my husband is indeed a school teacher) and domestic discipline role-play, to, finally, him using his belt on my hands, the experience which is by far the best in terms of both erotic intensity and genuine fear and tension (which, you understand, I love). It’s very hard for him to administer the strokes to the palms of my, as he puts it, fragile and delicate hands, and the famous “I must be cruel to be kind” takes on the whole new meaning – you know, it takes great love and commitment for the straight man to hurt the woman he loves to bring her pleasure. But, oh boy, every time he does it it’s just the best thing in the world, and I feel very lucky.
I’d like to add that reading this rather thoughtful blog, written with a healthy degree of humour, is sure an inspiration. Keep up the good work!
Yours,
Amber
From Adele: Thank you for sharing your story, Amber! It’s very touching. Yeah, going from fantasy to reality can seem too much pain at first – and sometimes it *is* too much pain – but when it works, it’s incredibly rewarding!
Wanted to step out of the shadows. I’ve read your blog many times and havn’t left a comment. :)
I really love your blog!
BIG HUGS
padme
From Adele: Thank you, Padme – nice to hear your virtual voice. Happy delurk day :)
Hi Adele,
I think I’ve once posted on your site, so not 100% lurker, but pretty much so. I am by inclination a switch, but sadly don’t really get to see much action either way, as my partner is vanilla. She is entirely accepting, and lets me smack her bottom, and sometimes smacks mine, but, I suppose you always know she isn’t really enjoying it…. I do really enjoy your site, you and Pandora perhaps equally, both have a good sense of humour, your blogs are well written and erotic. Something odd about our sexuality that’s always intrigued me is how intense it can be, yet as soon as I mentally view it from outside, how utterly ridiculous it seems. I think an ability to laugh at yourself is quite an asset in these circumtances.
Thanks for asking said lurkers what fantasies they would like to see acted out on video etc, that gives me encouragement to write a fantasy I’ve never shared. An unlikely scenario I agree but here goes….
In the type of boarding school where prefects cane other students, but which is mixed sex, my girl friend is appointted a prefect in the sixth form but I am not. You can guess the rest I expect when I break a rule and she feels she has to do her duty. In a variation (which is more what I would like to see, as I don’t actually enjoy watching other men being punished), there is a convention that the teachers don’t cane, they give you a chit with a sentence, and you have to find a prefect to cane you, then return the signed chit to the teacher. My girl friend gets such a chit and has to find another prefect to cane her. The only one she can find is a girl who she doesn’t like, who tells her to return to her own room (where I happen to be waiting), and later comes in and borrows my girl friend’s cane to punish her in front of me.
So there is my delurking, thanks once again for your blog,
Bob
From Adele: Your fantasies are quite yummy, Bob. I could enjoy watching something like that. You never see a mixed school on video, and more’s the shame!
My Dearest Adele -
I do enjoy your writing. It is quite enlightening. To get paid for being spanked seems like one of the better professions that one could be employed in.
Regards,
Frank
From Adele: Cheers, Frank! Yes, being paid for doing what you love is great. Try that in your imaginary adventures :)
Hi Adele,
I have to confess Adele…..i am a lurker! and i am glad of this chance to come out!
I owe so much to You and Bonnie and others who have shown me that it is not weird to enjoy those spankings that i share with my loving husband……
I once thought that to have a sore bottom on a Monday morning at work was somehow strange and unreasonable behaviour
Thank You again
susan
From Adele: Seriously, Susan, what can be more reasonable than having a sore bottom on a Monday morning? Or any other morning? ;) Enjoy the sore-bottom mornings; they’re great!
This is late for delurking day but I’ve only come to your blog today for the first time (about 20 minutes ago – I think!). I put it in my favourites immediately, by the way, because I know I want to read more.
May I say I’m really glad you enjoy your modelling work?
Answering some of your questions, the secret fantasy of being caned started for me at an early age, maybe 5 years old. Then life brought me a partner who actually does cane me, when she feels it’s right to do so. This has been going on for nearly 20 years and I still feel so lucky.
Yes I do watch videos, of both men and women being spanked and caned – but to be honest, I feel a little bit guilty about watching women in that situation.
Anything I’d like to see that I can’t get? Maybe out-takes of the videos which show the recipients like what they’re doing and want to be punished…. because with some of them (particularly from Eastern Europe), the actors are so “in character”, that I feel not just guilty but also quite alarmed!
From Adele: Hey, Spike, it’s never late to delurk. There doesn’t *really* need to be a special day for it. I hear you on the outtake front; there really aren’t enough of them around. You can get some, though. The Spanking Epics production “Trouble in Carson’s Gap” has outtakes (and director’s commentary, too); Northern Spanking has an occassional outtake special in the members’ area, and the Rigid East site has behind-the-scene photos for each Lupus Pictures movie. I think, outtakes are going to become more and more common, and that gladdens my heart as well – because the best bits of a spanking shoot happen behind the scenes, and it’s nice to be able to share them.
Hi Adele,
I just knew you would have a whole bunch of silent friends. They’re an interesting group too.
Thanks for joining in our delurk day!
Hugs,
Bonnie
From Adele: Thank you for organising the whole show, Bonnie; it’s been such a riot!
Hi Adel,
I’ve probably commented on your blog a time or two, but I don’t mind saying hello again. I read it every day and I always enjoy your comments and observations on the spanko universe.
HUGS,
Richard
From Adele: Hiya, Richard – you may not be a lurker, but it’s nice of you to say hi, anyways.
Hi Adele!
I’m not a shy one (I hate the lurker term) cause I’ve never been here before but I sure wish I hadn’t waited so long. And I’ll be back to read and gawk at length to be sure, as time permits. You have some amazing shy ones!!!! Wow, those have got to be some of the best commetns I’ve read all day and I have been getting around, let me tell you… that’s awesome that you generate such strong feelings of adoration from your readers!
Hey, if or when you get time, would you consider taking a spin by my site and see what you think? I’ve got lots of fun and games going on and would really love to have you join in… I think you would fit right in with my crowd of brat and our rather tight-knit blogger circle of friends…
Huge hugs and sorry it took me so long,
Tiggr
From Adele: Welcome, Tiggr :) “Shy ones” is an interesting term; haven’t come across it before! Gawk away if you like, and I’ll do likewise over at yours!
Hey there – love the blog, jealous of the spankings!
Flinch
From Adele: Thanks, Flinch. No need to be jealous; you can get all the spankings to ever want. Let’s see. First, you start to misbehave…
I’m a long-time fan, but I thought I’d re-delurk. Is that possible?? Love everything about you – the way you write, the way you look, and the work you do. I’m especially enamored by the pic that accompanied this post. Love you Adele. Keep up the good work, and I look forward to lots and lots of reading pleasure in the future.
Aunty
From Adele: Of course you can re-delurk, Aunty. Thank you for your compliments, and continuing kindness!
alright, here be my delurking post… I don’t think I’ve ever commented here before.
I’m a 20 year old woman, long(ish) time reader, and I must confess I’m not a spanko per se (*gasp*) but I am a submissive masochist, and a spanking is one of many fun ways to get my required dose of pain. Not number one of my list, but it manages to fit into my busy pervy schedule.
I have a slightly obsessive number of blogs I read regularly, although I think yours is the only purely spanking blog… Lots of fun to read, and interesting. :)
From Adele: Wow… there are things you can do other than spanking? LOL Kidding. I’m so there on the crazy number of blogs, and some of the ones I read are not even about anything I’m into. But blogs are so incredibly addictive – once you figure out how to subscribe to them, stopping isn’t an option. :)
Hi Adele..Congratulations to you on your ability to write a very coherent and interesting blog. The idea generated by Bonnie seems to be working very well and is, possibly for the first time, encouraging people not to just read but to respond, contribute and provide feedback. This can only be welcomed by all. As for an introduction from myself, I have “specialised” for many years in producing photographic images of the spanking of young ladies with my work regularly appearing in Janus, Februs (as it was) Roue (as it could be) and more recently on blog sites (pandoras-bot and the troublewithemma). I am shortly to be launching a new concept that will enable new models to try and see if this area is something they are comfortable to work within that will enable them to try, start to create a portfoilo and work within a professional environment in a relaxed and fun way with no obligation or indeed cost.
From Adele: Good luck with the new concept, Roy, that sounds fascinating. I’ve got an extensive collection of Januses, so I’m sure I’ve seen some of your pictures. :)
Hi Adele,
Just a quick line from a man who leaves comments far too little. I love your wit, your humor, and most of all that lovely glow you sometimes have after a little attention from some lucky spanker. Please, keep on keepen on.
Joe
From Adele: Thank you, Joe! *blush* I’m glad you like it here. Will do my best to keep up – or keep on ;)
Hi – just popping in to say hi a bit late for Delurker’s Day…
Tracy
From Adele: Cheers, Tracy – same to you!
In terms of what I’d really like to see but can’t get: Over the past decade I’ve wrote to several spanking video producers suggesting themes, one of which is a school knickers caning special, wherein a particularly large bottomed young lady receives the cane whilst wearing several different coloured pairs of tight, bottom hugging knickers (not at the same time..)
12 strokes would be caned across bottle green knickers, followed by 12 over navy blue, proceeding to 12 on white (could even be some sort of panty girdle type thing at this stage) and concluding with 12 on the bare so we get to see lots of nice red cane marks on her generous bum at the end.
It’s a fair few cane strokes, but they don’t have to be the hardest in nature, since the focus of the fetish here is more about the cane given over school knickers than trying to compete in the severity stakes.
Nobody has ever taken up my suggestion, which I have found somewhat puzzling, as I would of thought it would be just the kind of thing that would be right up a lot of folks street. Maybe, I’m a little crazy and don’t realise I live all alone on my own little cul de sac…yea, perhaps that’s it.
That concludes my delurk. Thank-you.
From Adele: That’s an interesting fantasy, Remus – I don’t know that I’ve ever come across anything quite like it. Perhaps, producers can’t find a girl to take quite so many cane strokes in one shoot? Or maybe it’s that they aren’t sure many other site members will be keen to see the same thing. You can always try commissioning a private video from somebody. They can be costly, but you do get what you want in the end.
I admit it I am a lurker and I play, but I also don’t have anything creative to say. I enjoy your blog greatly. though.
From Adele: Thank you :) I never turn away a compliment!
I’m a lurker and I love spanking, especially of the rounder, bigger bottom (I love the way those buttocks move). But I’ve never really indulged it that much, being a bit guilty and confused about causing pain – I know, I know. Also, I’m very much of the spanking as foreplay type, so perhaps I’m not a true, genuine spanker.
But there’s something so beautiful about it, and one day I hope to have a more professional experience, so to speak, so I can start to understand it (and maybe me) better.
I also love the literature, and the narrative aspect of spanking tales, especially in combination with pictures. It seems such a cultivated pastime, really.
And this blog is great. You were right not to do the telly, though.
From Adele: Oliver, spanking as foreplay is just as genuine a kink as any other kind, so don’t let anybody make you feel like you’re less of a spanko than them. I don’t think a definition of a “true blue” spanko will ever exist, and so much the better. :) It’s also completely normal to feel ambivalent about causing pain. I still do, actually, whenever I try to top, even if I know that the other person craves it. Hey, it wouldn’t be as much fun if there wasn’t space for soul searching :)
Thank you to everybody who’s stopped by! It’s been a pleasure to chat to all of you.
I’ve been trying to reply to everybody personally, and at some point it’s become easier to add a response at the bottom of each comment so that I don’t miss anybody out – so don’t be surprised that your text is suddenly sporting a few extra lines.
(I’ll revert to good old replies-by-comments once I’ve caught up with the weekend post!)
Thanks for the comments Adele. Of course, the other option would be to start my own production company, but that’s not really a feasible option right now.
Anyway, if that fantasy is viewed as a bit unique, perhaps I’d better keep quiet about the one involving a piano lesson, Gilbert and Sullivan’s song “Tit Willow” from “The Mikado” and an extremely slender willow twig!..’cos that one’s totally bonkers!
Keep up the good work.
Ouch, Remus, those hurt! I tried 1)genuine birch twig 2)twig from a lilac bush 3)twig from the apple orchard (with 10 acres I can experiment with various homegrown toys) – the first two were discarded after the first few strokes – the thin twigs cut the skin so much that the pain seemed insane. The apple twig, however, which was much denser and thicker I loved right away, and so did my husband – it is still one of our most favorite implements. It makes such a nice sound as it travels through the air before landing in its destination, and, as my husband noted, complies with the rule of a thumb, too.
Remus – Starting your own production company just to shoot the one fantasy is an overkill indeed, I’ll grant you that. The piano fantasy sounds intriguing, though (I have a few of my own) – does it *have* to be that particular song, though. 8-O
Amber – You’re the first person I’ve ever heard compare different types of switches; with knowledge like that, you should be blogging!
Thanks, Adele. I was actually thinking of writing “a Farmwife’s blog,” then I thought about writing a “Kinky Farmwife’s blog,” to spice up those pickle recipes and such with the details of some of our memorable spanking adventures, which at times can be too good to keep to yourself. I could also promote the back-to-the-lander life with its abounding benefits: you can, for example, make love in the nude in the middle of a hayfield on a summer night under the stars, and all company you’ll ever encounter that time a day is deer. Gives “the roll in the hay” a whole new dimension, too (nice and poky).
Well, there you are, Amber: you’ve got your blog topic sorted out, and you’ve got your unique slant on the issue – what more do you need? ;)
Amber – I’ve only tried experimenting with willow to date. When I still lived in England, I used to have an ornamental willow tree in my garden, but my cats used to love sharpening their claws on it and as a result, I assume what eventually happened, was that the top part of the tree which had originally been grafted on died, and I was left with the rootstock of a proper huge willow tree. In very little time, masses of long vertical willow canes started growing out of the base of what remained of the tree. Unfortunately for the tree, which was only ever supposed to be a little dwarf thing, it became huge and despite it’s rather stunning appearance I had to grasp the nettle, so to speak, and chop it down, as it was now too near the house for its size. I love trees, so I wasn’t too happy about having to do that, but on the plus side, I was left with masses and masses of willow canes of all different lengths and thicknesses. I made all kinds of “birches” and canes from them, single prong, double, triple, otk canes and birches, unfeasibly long canes, you name it I made it and tried it out with my girlfriend of the time. I look back at those times as some of the best I’ve had..so far. The idea of trying lots of different types of woods is thrilling and definitely something I’ll get around to some day. It’s quite an amazing thing to seemingly innocently hold a branch of a tree while secretly getting a buzz from it, as your mind works overtime imagining all the possibilities. You’re right about the great sounds they make – sometimes when my girlfriend wasn’t there, I would swish various canes through the air and get turned on just by the incredible sounds they would make.
Adele – Yes, I’m afraid it would have to be that song, as that particular fantasy wouldn’t really make sense otherwise! Still, there are lots more that could be based around the music room without that tune, I’m sure.
Hey Remus – I just turned my favorite “apple stick,” as my husband calls the apple switch, into a sort of a cane last night. I liked it as it was, but then I figured it would be nicer if it was entirely smooth, so I cleaned it of the bark and sanded it and now it’s indeed smooth and pretty, and it became quite a bit lighter in weight. My husband told me to put mineral oil on it to keep it from drying out and cracking. Amazing, it sucks the oil right up.
Do they last? I think you probably have to oil them on a regular basis, unless I was to varnish it, but I don’t like the idea of a chemically treated wood on by bare bottom. Since you sound like you’ve done that a lot, I was wondering what you’d have to say about that. In case you wonder what happened next, my husband wanted to try it out right away, despite the fact that I had already gotten about 50 strokes with it last night, before its transfiguration (It’s probably a lot, but after the 25 I counted out in English, as usual, he asked me to count off another 19 in Russian which he found very arousing, but since I haven’t been thanking him, halfway through he decided to start all over again, with me counting and saying “thank you” in Russian this time. It is still hurting a bit to sit down). Anyway, at that point I couldn’t really tell the impact of the new incarnation of the apple switch, it just hurt. (At this point Adele is probably going to tell me to get my own blog and stop sharing dirty details of my private life on hers).
Amber – when a comment thread develops into a dialogue with a community feel, it can only be a good thing. I’m always happy to read other people’s dirty details :)
Amber – It’s sounds like you have a lot of fun at your place :) I think you really should start your own blog, I for one would tune in to keep apprised of your latest spanking experiments.
I’m not sure about the longevity of these canes, but I do recall some of my willows drying out and getting a bit brittle. I eventually had to throw them all out when I moved across the pond. It was a busy time as it was and the last thing I wanted were complications pertaining to importing foreign plant parts or some other transgression. Maybe soaking them or varnishing them is the answer – that’s just more experiments to report on in your forthcoming blog ;)
I laughed at your comment about Adele probably telling you to get your own blog, as I had a similar thought when I read back my post about the life and times of my willow tree.
Adele, I missed out on the De-lurk day cos i was on holiday, but im glad to see you managed to get lots to come out of the shadows!
I have never lurked, which hasn’t always done me any favours as being about the parapet can backfire sometimes , but i’m glad i had the chance to find your site and tell you how great it is and how much i like your style of writing.
I will only post when i think i have something to add but often it’s intellectually above my head (particularly literary works, i never read as a child and am now too lazy) so I just read the posts, learn and admire the effort you must put into all this. The spanking stuff of course i understand well, but there is so much more in your site and thats why I like it.
Take care and i hope your ex-lurkers enjoy being here now.
Emma
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